Gary and Vicki…

Have I mentioned my son Lucas is home, on R & R, from Afghanistan? It’s amazingly awesome… My husband has had the week off and so, working around this never ending back injury, we have tried to make the most of our time. 
One afternoon we went bowling. Our local alley is pretty awesome to run great weekly specials and we were lucky enough to find a relatively quiet afternoon to head down and hit some pins. Lucas, Genny and Chw took to the lanes, and I observed (thanks, back injury, AGAIN.) 
While observing, a couple bowling a few lanes down caught my eye. 
Gary and Vicki. 
Gary, a sweet elderly gentleman, slightly hunched over and absolutely adorable. With bright white hair, bright blue eyes and a kind, silly manner. His charming date Vicki wore a read sweater turtle neck with coordinating red pants, her long silken white hair swept up into a thick, luxurious braid. 
As their game went on, it became apparent that their body language wasn’t that of a couple who has spent their lives loving each other- but instead it was that of two people getting to know one another. 
They were obviously dating. 
It was amazing. 
They flirted, he joked and she giggled. They would graze hands and then pull away and blush. 
Their balls rolled straight, but slow, down the waxy lane. When ever his veered to the gutter, he’d bend and cover his face like a young boy and shake his head. 
Every. Single. Time. 
Genny would look at me and smile, mouthing “aweeee”, so that only I knew what she was saying. 
(That girl of mine loves herself some old people. They are as adorable to her as new, powder scented baby.)
Eventually their two games came to an end. Gary won, but not by much. By the time they untied their rented shoes, and Gary carried them to the counter, our whole family noticed them and the beautiful something there. The hope. The challenge that life isn’t over at forty, or fifty. The idea that even when crowned with white hair, we remain ourselves. And beautiful. And attractive. And someone… 
They finished before we did. Their lane taken over by a 5 year old kid who bowled twice what my men were bowling. 
More than anyone, they then missed Gary and Vicki. 
Moral of this story? 
I totally want to be a Vicki when I grow up… 
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Eleven…

Me– 
– recovering from this back injury and getting to a whole point where I can be active again.
– trying not to take the ability to do simple things like cook dinner and fold laundry, for granted again.

Reading
– My manuscript (for editing purposes, when my son isn’t home.) 
Watching
– the Walking Dead.
– Christmas movies 
Us
– spending time with Lucas!!!
– Meeting his girlfriend, who is flying in from the Midwest.
– having a lovely Thanksgiving while Lucas is home on R & R.
– Lucas really is our main November focus/priority and we aren’t thinking much beyond the time he is home because we want it to last forever… 
Heart
– Getting back into a disciplined quiet time with God. (it’s amazing how quickly I get out of that habit. Hate it.) 
Create
– Finish a few Christmas gifts that we have going on.
– some sort of a sofa table.
– a wall collage.
– a few photo sessions.
– Christmas cards. 
Home
– Finishing up the family room.
– adorning home for the holidays. 
Health
– Back care.
– Water.
– Stretching.
– destressing. 
Love– 
– a date would be lovely. I’ll work on that.
– Devotions together.

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Realizations…

This month our family had the privilege of taking an unexpected road trip. There is something so therapeutic about having an open road, scenery, great music and interesting conversation to really stimulate your brain in ways home just can’t seem to.  Honestly, for me, it seems that only real ocean air and a road trip have that affect… 
What this particular trip helped me realize is the new era of adulthood we are entering into… 
We married super young and we struggled. We became parents and certain emotional special needs were a bit debilitating. There were things that others were able to do that we couldn’t, when an actual dinner party or date night were a struggle. Now though, we are transitioning into a new phase and i am realizing that it’s time for a change… 
Like, date nights are awesome but the husband and I NEED to tun away every six months, or so, for a long weekend. We need that reconnect time… It’s vital. 
But wait, that’s not all… 
I need girl time. Monthly girl’s night outs… Annual girl weekends… 
And so does he… Guy time. Guy nights. Guy weekends… (of the fishing and man variety, NOT of the Hangover/Vegas variety of course…) 
And priority dates with Gen. It’s key… Sure she tags along to a movie, or we grab dinner. But PRIORITY dates, on occasion, just to rejuvenate the batteries… 
Also, we need more road trips and ocean time… But then again, I realize that every morning when I open my eyes. :) 
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My night in a slasher film…

From time to time, in the crisp month of October, I have been known to watch a scary movie or two. I don’t know why… I do get a little scared, and truth be told, sometimes they really stick with me and I do not care much for that part of it. 
Even so, October rolls around and with the invitation to watch a frightfest with friends or snuggle into the crook of my husband’s shoulder and do the same- I decide why not?… 
Why not?
My youngest has seen very few scary movies, and a good chunk of the ones that she has seen, she can thank her brother for… Even so, while she (and I) pretend we aren’t scared of them- their lingering effects are a whole other story. 
Grab some popcorn, snuggle in and get ready for what was seriously the scariest night of my life… 
(though I 98% blame the scary movies i have seen.) 
We found ourselves in Nevada, Saturday. The air wasn’t as October crisp as my body felt it should be, given the warm desert sun pounding through the car windows. Nearly a hundred miles north of Vegas, and with a setting sun, we were ready for this leg of our trip to find it’s way to hot shower and a comfortable bed… 
The room we had booked, pretty last minute, had us turning onto Nevada highway 375. 
The website we had trusted ensured us this was one of two rooms, on our path, and with a four star user rating, it was the obvious of the two… 
The turn to 375 greeted us with a state highway sign informing us that this was the Extraterrestrial Highway. The sun barely beamed, in the distance, as we traveled down the road that seemed to stretch on forever. 
With the increasing darkness the ethereal outside seemed to become more and more unsettling. 
“Can we have some music?” asked Gen, from her back seat, shifting nervously. 
Glancing at my iPhone I noticed that we had NO SERVICE. “I guess spotify is out.” I murmured for no other reason really than to further break the suffocating silence.  I turned the radio on, and hit scan. The tiny threads of remaining daylight proved it was a long shot. 
The light and I were both wrong… 
We had stations and stations, and stations. 
We had spanish stations, french Canadian stations… We had country stations being broadcast from Vegas and a rock station coming from California. Without any exaggeration at all, every point on the FM dial had a brand new, crystal clear station. 98.7, 98.8, 98.9… What was really cool, quickly became really eerie… And then, just as it scanned through the entire dial twice- every singly station was gone and it cycled through black silence… 
Weird, we all three managed at one… 
I checked my phone again- NO SERVICE. 
For nearly forty long, silent, pitch black miles, an unknown darkness spread out before us. When we finally came to the first building on our left, Chw took the turn with enthusiasm- as if the idea of continuing the way we’d come could drive him mad. As relief for human faces and noise began to recenter us back into reality, we took in our surroundings… 
Surely this wasn’t… 
But it was. 
This tiny, thrown together building was our “hotel”. The pluthera of ancient mobile homes behind it proved to be the suites. 

After a few expressions of shock and anger were cycled through, we decided there was little to do but make the best of what could turn out to be a really fun memory/adventure. We feasted on Alien burgers and apple pies while listening to other guests talk about various UFO sightings and rumors. We were tired, we were really just killing time prolonging the moment before we inevitably had to step into our own trailer suite… (Shared with random strangers, I’ll point out.)

The time did come, and so reluctantly we went.
I sent Chw in to check it out… Last thing anyone in central Nevada wanted was me walking into a piece of crap trailer and finding rats, snakes or a murder victim…
He gave us the all clear, while wearing an expression indicating that this could be really bad, and in we went…

Dark brown paneled walls, one full size bed (we’d been told upon booking that we had a private bathroom and two full size beds) Management offered us a moldy hide a bed mattress to compensate for the one bed, though the fleas on the carpet and the lack of it ever being vacuumed (there is no way it had, at least in this calendar year) made us decline.
The dust on the furniture was an inch thick and gummy. The sheets in the bed were covered in crumbs, hair and other shaded though dried fluids. The bathtub (not private bathroom) had a fungus. The heater didn’t work and the desert temperature was dropping faster than my anger was rising…
I was livid, Chw was beside himself with guilt and Genny was near tears with terror.
Carefully we sat on the sofas, in the trailer’s living room, to access our options.

We had already heard the horror stories of the many people killed on the highway, at night, due to open range cattle. We were trapped.

To break the silence that was once again smothering us, I gave a laugh and said “Next thing you know, we’ll find a stack of video tapes, and out of curiosity we’ll watch the one that will make this trip go even more sorts of wrong.”
Chw laughed.
Genny began to cry.
In that exact instant, Chw’s cell phone rang and “UNKNOWN CALLER” flashed on the screen.
Genny screamed, plunging against his torso, all pounding fists and shrieking sobs…
The line was dead.
Chw and I laughed at the absurdity of the situation, while also exchanging chilling glances with one another.

We took turns, him and I, sitting in the one chair while the other one was propped against our door. We brought our own pillows and blankets and spread them out on the bed. I allowed him to sleep longer, as he was driving and needed rest the most.

When light barely became visible above the mountain range, we booked it out of there, driving 90 until we reached the turn towards home.

The morals of my Terrifying Saturday the 13th story are this:

– Even if they don’t scare you, horror movies fester in your brain waiting to terrorize you, and they will… Every little sound, every eye sized hole in your paneled walls,  every visible breath of icy air and every gravely shuffle outside will make you question that fine line you believed in, between slasher film and everyday life…
– Time really is a matter of perspective, and those five and a half hours were about twenty five years in length.
– Never, ever, ever, ever plan to spend any amount of dark time in Rachel Nevada…

THE END… 
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On family, milestones and France on stage…

Tomorrow we will have been a family, with Genny, for nine years… 
NINE!
Chw remarked, when we were talking with friends about a few nights ago, that it “feels like forever,” to which Genny piped up, “Are you kidding me, it IS forever!” 
Those nine years from the day we picked her chubby little cheeked face up, until today, really has been it’s own little lifetime. 
We always do something a little special to commemorate our family anniversary. This afternoon we have tickets to a Broadway (on tour) show of Les Miserables. Being that this is my husband’s FAVORITE musical (my second favorite), Genny has NEVER seen it, and it is a beautiful story of redemption and adoption- it seemed like a fitting treat to celebrate our ninth anniversary. 
For a time, it also looked like our adoption would be finalized today. As it turns out, that has been postponed but, lucky us, we still have to make an appearance in court today. (prayers are appreciated.) 
I hope that today’s show really touches our own little Cosette and resonates within her a beautiful milestone…
Happy Thursday… 
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