Category: Art

I feel like such a movie slacker… Usually, by this day every year (it’s a big day around our house) I have seen most of the nominated movies… This year, I haven’t- and it’s unfortunate because I have worked SO HARD not to have to see Avatar. Psh… Darn you, James Cameron. (I am sort of dumb in the fact that I REFUSE to watch the Oscars if I haven’t seen all of the nominated major motion pictures…) I have a month and 5 days. ugh. but then, despite my certainties that i will hate Avatar, i have to wonder: why bother? We all know it will win anyway. (again, I repeat: darn you, James Cameron!!!!)

My to-do list (only rule is major motion pictures) and the other categories with a * for who I think will win, and BOLD for who i want to win…



Best Picture
Avatar *

The Blind Side

District 9

An Education

The Hurt Locker
Inglorious Basterds

Precious

A Serious Man

Up
Up in the Air

Best Director
James Cameron, ‘Avatar’ *
Kathryn Bigelow, ‘The Hurt Locker’
Quentin Tarantino, ‘Inglourious Basterds’
Lee Daniels, ‘Precious’
Jason reitman, ‘Up in the Air’
Best Actor
Jeff Bridges, ‘Crazy Heart‘ *
George Clooney, ‘Up in the Air’
Colin Firth, ‘A Single Man’
Morgan Freeman, ‘Invictus’
Jeremy Renner, ‘The Hurt Locker’
Best Actress
Sandra Bullock, ‘Blind Side’ *
Helen Mirren, ‘The Last Station’
Carey Mulligan, ‘An Education’
Gabourey Sidibe, ‘Precious’
Meryl Streep, juli and julia
Best Supporting Actor
Matt Damon, ‘Invictus’
Woody Harrelson, ‘The Messenger’
Christopher Plummer, ‘The Last Station’
Stanley Tucci, ‘The Lovely Bones’ (didn’t I JUST blog about this? he is such a talent!)*
Christoph Waltz, ‘Inglourious Basterds’
Best Supporting Actress
Penelope Cruz, ‘Nine’
Vera Farmiga, ‘Up in the Air’
Maggie Gyllenhaal, ‘Crazy Heart’
Anna Kendrick, ‘Up’
Mo’nique, ‘Precious’*
Best Animated Feature Film
‘Coraline’
‘Fantastic Mr. Fox’
‘The Princess and the Frog’
The Secret of Kells’
‘Up’ *

Best Original Screenplay
‘The Hurt Locker’*
‘Inglourious Basterds’
‘The Messenger’
‘A Serious Man’
‘Up’
Best Adapted Screenplay
‘District 9’
”An Education’
‘In the Loop’
‘Precious’*
‘Up in the Air’

When I have an actor, or actress, that I really like- I tend to follow the projects they are working on. Because I really like Peter Sarsgaard, I first heard about Orphan quite some time ago. It wasn’t until the facebook warnings and petitions about this film began surfacing, that I really paid much attention to it though.
I am not a “bandwagon” kind of girl. It isn’t until I feel very, personally, convicted about something before I take a stand. And yet I found myself surrounded by people warning me of this movie. Warning the world of the damage this film could do to adoption, specifically adoption of older children.

I don’t know, I guess the theory (based solely on the trailer) was panic that people everywhere would see that adopting an older child comes with risks, and therefore these kids would be even harder to place.

I have to admit, based solely on my perspective of the trailer (prior to seeing the film) I sort of felt the opposite. Adoption is an AMAZING thing. It is truly extraordinary. Parenting any child is difficult, so please know that I am in no way undermining this at all. HOWEVER, parenting a child who suffers from an attachment disorder is beyond anything imaginable. I had read the books, done the clinical work and heard the minimal positive stories right along with the garishly nightmarish ones. I believed I was prepared.
I was a fool.
There are not enough adjectives, in the world, to explain what parenting a child with an attachment disorder is like. And it really doesn’t improve, it simply changes. There are different severities, multiple extremes. Manipulation is, at all times, the main agenda.

And I am sorry, but all too often people are entering into these adoptions believing that the child “just needs a loving family,” or “will be so grateful for a forever home.” These are myths. Although a child may need a loving family, or deeply aches for a forever home, he or she NEEDS so much more. Therapeutically. Psychologically. And my belief is, that because the system is so crowded with these kids- these details tend to be sugar coated to push adoptions through. The tragic result is often criminal. The middle result is that these kids end up in multiple adoptions or growing up in a group home specifically for unhealthy children who can’t function in a family.

It doesn’t have to be that. it is, more often then not, hell- to bond with a child who has an attachment disorder. Sometimes, that never happens. At any rate- I feel the warnings for this movie (yes, back to the movie) were ridiculous. They were, suffice it to say, based in ignorance. Most likely, someone with a voice sent out an email warning of this “horrible” movie. It probably said something like “Tell everyone! Do what we can to stop movies like this from trying to ruin adoption.” Because the people, who heard it from someone else, who heard it from someone else-else, just kept passing the word- people probably started to believe that someone, somewhere, must know what they were talking about.
They didn’t.
The first 1/2 of this film were flawless. (technologically speaking they were really well shot and edited, etc…) but adoption wise, they could have been the PERFECT parable of an attachment disorder kid. All of the girls wrong choices seemed to stem from an understandable place. You wanted her new family to work, you sympathized with her fears of failing or being found unloveable.
Maybe not everyone did, but we did. We understood. We saw the root of her “behavior” because we’ve been there.

Then the movie gets really stupid and suffice it to say ends up not having one thing to do with adopting an older child, or the risks involved. (and in a really stupid way, as well)

So, bottom line- not my favorite movie and not worth watching. HOWEVER, Not worth everyone boycotting it either. I beg of you, if you HAVE TO take a stand for something because you are personally convicted- fine. But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don’t do it just because someone said you should…