I’ve been thinking a lot about those fine lines that dangle between between this part of my life and others…
Like blogging, for instance.
I love blogging, and I love reading blogs. Among the blogs that i read most frequently are mom blogs, humor blogs, cooking blogs, RAD mom blogs and interior design blogs. All of that is fine because I consider myself a fairly well rounded person, you see… But what about this blog? I don’t necessarily want it to fit into a neatly little labeled box. I don’t want it to be a _____ blog, or a _______ blog. I want it to be a real blog, an honest read filled with many things from recipes to house hold projects, from home schooling stuff to personal and independent stuff that has nothing to do with parenting at all.
Because, the thing is, I’m more than just a mom.
Sometimes I am just a mom, and sometimes I’m an entirely different kind of mom (see RAD). Sometimes I just want to write as a wife, or as a writer. As a photographer or as a girl who loves the culinary life in her kitchen.
A long time ago I had my readership, but then life changed. I changed. I couldn’t keep up with what I’d been before, blog wise. RAD got complicated, life got complicated, I left my job to move out west…
And now, now I sit here not know quite where I fit in. Do I walk away from blogging completely? I hope not, I deeply love this community of women I’ve come to know… But I sort of feel like it’s a tough sell. Some blogs I flock to fervently because they have inspired projects, dazzling stories about celebrities or delectable recipes that I can’t wait to try. With this blog though, I have to expect people simply to want to read it for me. I constantly fear, upon pushing PUBLISH if I’ve mentioned RAD too much, or not spoken enough about recent handbag acquisitions. (thanks, mom!)
I don’t know, I would really love feedback here…
9 thoughts on “line dancing…”
I read because it's YOU. Whatever you're doing, whatever you're loving, whatever you're struggling with…I hate it when I have to categorize my blog when joining a new blog service. Sometimes it's a mom blog, sometimes it's a craft blog, sometimes it's a venting blog, sometimes I don't update at all.I don't think you have to fit in to any category. Just write what's in your heart. I'll read it.
I am a little bit in the same boat I think. Lately I am having a hard time coming up with things to write about or I read blogs written by new moms and since I have "been there done that" I don't feel a major connection to that blog. I am at a cross roads and not sure if I should keep blogging or not. I have also gotten in trouble by family for blogging about certain things and that makes me think I should stop, but then there are other people who like seeing the kids pictures and hearing the stories…. but I don't feel I have much of interest to say anymore (WOW, I just about wrote a whole blog post on here! Sorry about that!)
My personal favorites are the ones about LIFE. I think way too many people get a complex and think that they don't have anything interesting to say. That's not true. There are gobs of us out here who WANT to read about something other than RAD and trauma and WANT there to be more in our lives and heads than RAD So, if you found some fabulous new recipe, blog about that. If you went for a walk and took cool pictures, share those. If you don't feel like blogging about stuff, don't. If you feel like taking a blog vacation, do it. If RAD is the focus of your life that day, blog about RAD. RAD is hard, RAD stinks, and the best support community you'll find is blogging. But it is equally important just to be you.Yes, the reader base of my blog has changed over time. That changed as soon as I started blogging about RAD and other RAD moms started linking to my. I never could really get my family to read it when it was targeted at them, and then we had to change the URL because some were reading it and using whatever we wrote about anything as a weapon. That's uncool. There aren't a lot who know me in real life who still read. The ones who do are my REAL friends, I can promise you that! The reason I say that now, I guess, is that my blog is where I write what's really going on and it's where the people who get it most respond and suport us. FB is where I put the fluffy stuff that makes the rest of the world happy.
I have struggled with the "to blog or not to blog" question and many others that I read are struggling.When I started blogging, I had small children at home, I never got out of the house, and I was starved for adult conversation. Now my children are older, I work outside the home part time, and I'm never home.I think the focus of my blog has changed over the years, but I've changed over the years.I'd like to think that blogging has helped me grow up a little. Maybe it's served it's purpose. Maybe I'm out of stuff to say :)Maybe I'm just in a season of life where I don't need the whole www to know every move I make and every thought I have.The only thing I do know is that I'm not going to make myself blog, and I'm not going to make excuses when I don't. That's part of being authentic.
I don't know if feedback from such an infrequent reader helps, but… PLEASE DON'T GO! I love your blog, even though I don't comment often. It's okay to not fit into a box!
Oh, honey!I love your blog BECAUSE it doesn't fit into a niche. It's a personal blog and it's pretty much the only kind of blog I read besides wellness and health blogs. I wish there were more blogs like this one to be perfectly honest.That said, I shut my own personal blog down because I felt privacy was an issue and I was tired of not having anything to write about. That chapter of my life was just closed and I found blogging love again writing about what I love. It's the difference between night and day.Keep it up! I'd miss this blog tremendously but I'd also follow you to any corner of the blogging world should you move into something else :)xo
you all are very sweet and I really appreciate it! thanks :) point taken!
Don't you dare quit! I read because I love your heart and I love your honesty. I feel the same way about my blog sometimes, worrying that it doesn't fit into some blog category like other blogs do. But whether or not anyone reads it, I blog for me. I like it. And I love the community and the friends I've made. (YOU) Stay put. Forever.
i don't read many blogs, and yours is one of them and i LOVE that i don't know what to expect – that being only one of many reasons i love to read about you and your life. PLEASE keep blogging!!!!!